I recently went to a very big photography conference and one of the most sort after speakers made a comment, that went something like, you don't need to show off a women's entire body to make her sexy, thats just playing to what men want. And while in principal I agree with that, It stuck in my head and went round and round and made me quite angry.
I also often get the impression, usually from men that boudoir is pornography, it's is not, it's the total opposite of pornography. Plain and simple. Pornography is a degrading, dehumanizing, and desensitizing poison that is has been leaking into our society for decades. Boudoir celebrates woman, women often book a boudoir shoot for their significant other, but they end up realizing it was more for them, it shows them how beautiful they are, how they are sexy, special , and worth showing off themselves.
I shoot boudoir. I LOVE shooting boudoir. And here is why.
This is how all my shoot go, every single client I have in my studio for a boudoir shoot always just before we start shoot says things along the lines of, "will you remove my cellulite', "my nose is crooked", I have a double chin', please don't get my fat stomach", etc, etc
And then we start the shoot....and I love people, we laugh, we joke, and I ask these gorgeous ladies to pose and look at me and move , and slowly they start to blossom, because I am looking at the real them, and telling them how beautiful they are.
By the end of almost every single shoot I do, my clients are usually proudly walking around naked, and smiling. They look gorgeous and know they do.
And then they come in to see their photos, and most cry, and keep asking, "is that me??"
One of my favorite stories is of a dear friend who I convinced to do boudoir for me when I was starting out, he objections were that she wasn't sexy, that she wasn't girlie, what she was morbidly obese, that her hair was short, that she didn't own sexy clothing. But I love her and convinced her to do it anyway. She cried when she saw the images, and a few days later her husband called and asked me to make him a album, his words were "You capture on film the wife I see and I want to have a permanent reminder of that."
All women are beautiful, all people are beautiful, they really are, their bodies tell stories. But for too long they have focused on their faults and what wrong with themselves instead of what is special, and boudoir allows me to show them this. They are not just doing sexy photos, instead they are seeing themselves in a different light and feeling great about themselves again. Bodies are wonderful and we should all have the chance to see how wonderful our body is.
This is why I love boudoir, because despite what many people think it isn't only a gift to give a loved one in a album, it's a gift for the model, because for this one time she is celebrated for all that she is.